Selfless Selfishness

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I had a conversation with my Granny the other day, where she told me about a friend of hers that had recently passed away. Naturally this event upset her greatly but the newspaper obituary had her in a tailspin. In the write up, the woman’s name was NOT listed as Mrs. Betty Philips but as Mrs. Thomas Philips (her surviving husband’s name). The article mentioned nothing of her personal victories/ internal self, just of external affiliates such as family and their accomplishments. I believe it … [Read more...]

Happy Father’s Day, Mom!

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  Another Father's Day will be here before you know it. Many people will be celebrating the day with their father or remembering those that have already passed. Fond memories from childhood will come to mind and bring smiles to their faces. I envy those that have had a loving father in their lives. That unique and loving bond between a father and child is so precious. I hope that those who are fortunate enough to experience that relationship appreciate every moment they have together … [Read more...]

Can’t we leave the bedroom at home?

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I have been a scout leader for 20 years and I am confused where the recent Boy Scout membership policy change is headed. 1) If “openly gay” means the boy is physically acting on their gay traits or impulses, this is a big problem. My question is why is a boy given approval (tacit or otherwise) to engage in sexual activity? We don’t allow any of our scouts to do that now. It distracts from the aims of scouting and we believe that is not something young people should engage in. 2) If … [Read more...]

Am I Really Doing a Couple’s Photo Shoot?

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"You fall in love with the most unexpected person at the most unexpected time."   Unknown   Honestly, I did not expect this to happen at all. When I divorced, I was convinced that I would never have any kind of serious relationship again. I didn’t want to go through the emotional turmoil that I had experienced during my marriage. I was convinced that relationships had to be rough and I was perfectly fine being single for the rest of my life. Then along came this man that turned my … [Read more...]

Who Am I?

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How do you identify yourself?...Career? Family? Others Opinion's? Achievements? There are so many ways we can all choose to describe the real us. I was a very lucky little girl. While my parents divorced at a very early age, there was something they had in common; they both made me believe that anything was possible. They told me I could be anything I wanted. Now there's also something they had in common. Neither one of them, to truly no fault of their own, gave me a road map of how to achieve … [Read more...]

Woman to Woman

Woman We Can Do It!

One of the most important relationships in our lifetime are the ones we share with other women. As women, we have to wear so many hats and carry so much of the world on our shoulders.  We often hear how difficult it is to get along with other women. We're often called catty and competitive. While that may be the case in some circles, I wouldn't be where I am today or possibly here at all if it wasn't for my amazing circle of women friends that coddled me when I needed to be protected, kicked … [Read more...]

“Still Standing or Standing Still?”

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  It is so very easy to get into the mode of thinking "at least I'm still standing" after you feel you've just been through a war. Sometimes we become so accustomed to always moving (which isn't necessarily always a bad thing at the right time), that we forget to just stand still and breathe. It has been proven that learning to just inhale and exhale naturally can have a significant impact on many things; blood pressure, metabolism, sleep, eating as well as all of the mental health … [Read more...]

Lessons in Friendship

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     “A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.” Arnold H. Glasow   That is exactly the kind of friendship that Cindy and I have. I have no doubt in my heart that she will always be there for me and if I happen to be going down, she will be there to catch me. Our friendship spans 25 years and counting. We have been through numerous life changing events together and no doubt will go through many more. I am blessed to have her in my … [Read more...]

It’s Okay NOT to be Okay…

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  It's okay to NOT be okay. How many times have you been told, "Keep it together man"...."What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"........"You have kids, be strong"....Yatta Yatta Yatta...I could go on and on, right?  Well what if you had just one person in your life to validate not only your feelings but tell you it's okay to NOT be okay? Today has been an extraordinarily difficult day. I write about difficult topics because they are even more difficult to speak of.  I am a … [Read more...]

Love at First InSite

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  "Valentine's Day"...A day set aside for the deep historical legend of St. Valentine who became known as a martyr. A man of faith that devoted himself to helping others who were being persecuted for their faith or love. Since 270 A.D., this honorary day has been turned into something much more commercialized. What does Valentine's Day mean to you? I suppose it might depend on where you are in your life and perhaps what your past experiences have been. For those who have lived in epic … [Read more...]